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ANTICIPATION

'"Well," said Pooh, "what I like best - " and then he had to stop and think. Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn't know what it was called.' A.A. Milne

Sometimes anticipation is almost better than the real thing. For me at this time of year it's the thought of summer just around the corner, the promise of long hot days where it's warm enough to swim in the ocean. Lazy afternoons lying underneath a tree with a book and mild nights where we sit outside with a glass of wine and talk until late...days that seem to linger on forever.

All through our lives we anticipate the future. Some of us with a degree of trepidation, others with an almost unrealistic optimism and the rest of us, somewhere in between. When you were young you had some of the pieces of the puzzle of what you wanted from adulthood in your mind. You wanted to travel or marry young or become a pro golfer. You wanted the same or a very different life to the one your family created for you. You wanted to learn more, laugh more or work less. You anticipated that life would be the same or different somehow.

Sadly, so many people reach adulthood and ask 'is this all there is?'. The life they had anticipated hasn't come to fruition or if it has, it doesn't feel the way that they had expected it would.

What do you do when anticipation is no longer a blissful pastime? Do you accept the way things are or continue to look for new things to dream about?

As with so many of the topics we discuss here, there's a fine balance between being with the way things are and acknowledging that this just isn't enough. And quite simply, if it doesn't feel that it's enough, it's not.

If there's nothing joyful that springs to mind when you think of the word 'anticipation', it's time to dig a little deeper. Even the small things we look forward to bring about change in the way we view the world.

As we near the close of yet another year, think about what you are anticipating - for the next few months, for 2008 and maybe even for the next five years.

Are there things to look forward to in a range of areas of your life?

Are there little things you look forward to every day?

Read more about the little things you can do in 'small pleasures, life's treasures' in my blog at http://calmcreative.blogspot.com/.

 
 

ON A PERSONAL NOTE

I love having something to look forward to. I make a point these days of booking a couple of weekends away well ahead of time and for a number of years now we've had an annual family holiday which we all really look forward to.

And for as long as I can remember, Chris and I have had our own little ritual of making Saturday nights special. Not just occasionally, but every Saturday night. If we're not having friends for dinner, I'll cook something new. We clean the house and buy flowers, I shop at the market for beautiful fresh produce and we set the table as though we are entertaining.

When the girls were little we'd feed them early and set them up with a movie in the other room so that the television was off for us. (This isn't an issue these days as they're always out the door in a hurry on a Saturday night). As a couple who have been together for over twenty years, we still need to work hard to bring pleasure to each other's lives. To create new dreams...things that we can look forward to together.

This is not to say that the girls aren't equally important. At the end of every other day we reconnect as a family. The ritual of eating dinner together at the table was something instilled in me by my own parents and it's something I look forward to every day.

We are happy for you to reproduce our articles as long as they remain intact and contain the author's details as follows:

'Kate James is a work life balance coach, writer and speaker. She works with professional people who want to enhance their quality of life by making the right career and life choices. You can find Kate at www.totalbalance.com.au.'

 

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